Currently, we’re walking through the Keep Your Love On: Connection devotional by Danny Silk, available at YouVersion.com or on the Bible App. Sentences in quotes or italics are direct quotes from the devotional
“The first thing that reveals a powerless mindset is powerless language.”
“The defining force of the powerless person is anxiety.”
In today’s devotional, Danny Silk describes the trail of devastation that appears in the life of the powerless person.
Feeling out of control leads to fear, which leads to irresponsibility, which in turn leads to less and less control in one’s life.
Do you feel responsible for other people’s joy, happiness, or peace?
If you’re a spouse or parent, you probably do. We’ve been conditioned to think that we should “complete” others, and that they should do the same for us. If you’re a mother or father, the world should rest on your shoulders. You should make sure your kids are educated…and entertained…and exercised…and so on and so on. Their whole existence and happiness depends on you. What are YOU doing wrong, huh?
It’s time to stop. In love, we should always give our best for our families and friends. We should do our part to maintain healthy relationships. But we are NOT the only ones responsible for this. There must be balance.
You can never control another person. You can give your all or give nothing and still never be able to control the way another person reacts to you. What you can control are your attitude and your boundaries.
Don’t say “I can’t.” If it’s something you shouldn’t do, say “I won’t,” because that makes it a choice, and you are free from powerlessness. If it’s something you should do, say “I can and I will,” because that makes you more courageous and stronger than you were before you made the choice.
We’ve already walked through Danny’s first question. The second is yours to answer on your own.
Do you feel that certain people are responsible for your joy, happiness, or peace?